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@mouse@bookwyrm.social I watched that movie a few times. I wonder if I could find an audio version of this new translation.

Excellent points made on the importance of pleasure, the potential of placebo, and a strong finish, critiquing the diagnostic model of the DSM.

Good, right, and important, but somehow I did not manage to grow much between the start of Together and its finish.

I started listening to Green read his book to me a year or two ago, and dropped it. But feeling drawn to more poetic subject matter now, feeling my usual focus glaze over, this delivers in ironic commentary, as if a star rating could ever provide insight into the quality of an experience beyond just the quality, a quality of the experience of a book that I have been missing. I just very much enjoyed the chapter on our capacity for wonder.

Wonder, itself, given a star rating. Does it matter how many? Should it ever matter to you, how many stars for anything? Only because the metric is forced down our throats by e-commerce platforms, must it matter. But no wonder why the quality of daily life has been seeming to drop in dimensionality. Not that Green has yet made this point.

The Gottmans under-state the significance of this book by implication, with the type of title they gave it. But the take-away is that they found the single variable most correlated with long, happy relationships: how partners respond to bids for attention. Though the authors only discuss the context of amatonormative marriages, this finding, through the lens of the experienced Gottmans, is valuable insight for friendships and any kind of emotional intimacy partners wish to maintain.

"Trauma is so common for autistic people that it crowds the ability for psychologists to diagnose adults."

Having grown up in Alaska, I feel I have a different set of assumptions about infrastructure than most who grew up with higher population density. For a long time after I left the north, I still carried a knife, lighter, and flashlight. Convenient tools, if for no other reason than that others usually don't have them when they need them, but reflecting a lack of assumption on my part that wherever I find myself, I will necessarily have light and warmth, or need nothing more than my bare hands. Infrastructure is the difference, and its ubiquity in most lives is both freeing and limiting.

I apparently bought it and forgot it. Back to the top of my list to read next.

@kingrat Must be what the French call a French press?

This definitely belongs near the top of my list, especially considering I would be listening to the abridged 2012 audio version read by the author, Riane Eisler. Almost no excuse to leave it shelved.

Nord's chapter 4, Motivation Drive and Wanting, strikes directly at the crux of my personal life challenges. The difference between wanting and pleasure. I want, and I have sometimes extreme drive, but I do not feel good about it, and am almost always disappointed. The countless times I have finished doing something and found myself pretending to be happy about it for the sake of others…

I enjoying these, specifically the account of drama beetween neighborhood cats which I just finished. A nice book I don't have to pay much attention to, but am glad to, when I do. A reminder to take delight where I can, not just think hard about everything and stay busy.