I wish I could give Lumanlan more stars, but with one kid and seemingly little direct input from families with many, I found a whole lot of distance between my daily challenges and the narrative. In my experience 2 kids is a different category of parenting than an only child. I got a vasectomy for my very survival. And I must say, you will not find a book on parenting written by an author with three kids close in age. Such is flatly impossible. But with that significant caveat, Jen Lumanlan's experience and research IS extensive and deep and as an expression of strife for a better future for humanity, I wholeheartedly commend this book as a necessary voice in the conversation about what parenting can be, and how we can side step some of the intergenerational trauma that is so ubiquitous that it is most often invisible within us.